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My Biggest Fear for our Second Baby (& a giveaway!)

Post written in collaboration with Infacol

As the time ticks on for meeting Baby Peaches #2, I’m starting to get really excited. Possibly more excited than when I had Violet as I know how amazingly wonderful meeting your new baby is and that feeling when your life changes in an instant. Nothing can prepare you for that and I can’t believe it’s going to happen again in less than 9 weeks! However, I am also becoming quite a lot more more nervous than the first time around as I also remember how challenging having a newborn can be. I’ve started to think about the difficult times with Violet – like when she had jaundice and we stayed in hospital for a week, how our breastfeeding journey never really worked. I wonder if it’ll be different for us this time, or maybe full of new challenges! When people hear that soon I’ll have ‘two under two’ they always say ‘Wow, you’ll have your hands full!’ honestly if I had a pound for everyone that said that I’d be quite rich by now, but actually I’m not too worried about that – the one thing that terrifies me for the new baby is if they are going to suffer with colic like Violet did. That is tough.

Violet suffered really badly with colic and it was honestly one of the most challenging times we had to face. She would scream and scream for hours every evening with trapped wind and colic symptoms, we did everything we possibly could to help her and I remember vividly being exhausted to my core. It felt like it would never end and it certainly burst the ‘honeymoon period’ of having a new baby very quickly. It makes you feel utterly stressed, frazzled and like you are doing something wrong to have a baby that just won’t stop crying, so I really feel for anyone who has suffered too.

It’s no wonder that when Infacol recently carried out some research called ‘Stress in the First Six Months’ which found that 95% of parents find having a baby stressful, 82% agree that living up to expectations of being a good parent is stressful and excessive crying in infants is stressful for 85% of mums and dads. I can fully relate, even though I have to add at this point, it’s such a happy time, full of love too. That got me by and I’m sure it will this time, whatever challenges we face.

I had no idea what colic even was when Violet was born – it’s the one thing that seems to be forgotten in parenting books and antenatal classes, yet so many babies are affected. According to Infacol, 1 in 3 British mums admit that they were not aware of colic prior to the birth of their child. This is why Infacol, Britain’s Number One Colic Remedy, and Cry-Sis, the only parenting charity dedicated to supporting parents through excessive infant crying, have launched the first Infant Colic Awareness Campaign. The campaign has been designed to educate and support parents to ensure they can experience the joys of parenthood to the full.

If you are worried your little one might have colic, here are 5 signs to look out for:

How long are the intense bouts of crying lasting? More than several hours? If your baby is crying inconsolably – don’t worry it doesn’t mean you are doing something wrong. It’s very likely to be colic.

Is your baby crying inconsolably for 3 hours or more a day, 3 or more times a week? For us it was every bedtime between about 7pm-10pm. I can’t count the hours I’ve spent pacing around the room, holding her, calming her. She just wanted to be held with me standing up the entire time – how do they know when you sit down? That’ll always baffle me.

Is your baby’s face red and flushed when they cry? This was so stressful as she looked so uncomfortable, I felt so helpless and just wanted to settle her and make her comfortable!

Does your baby clench their fists, draw their knees up to their tummy, or arch their back while crying? This can be a classic sign of colic. Their digestive system is still immature which can be very uncomfortable for them. Help them to relieve the trapped wind by rocking and moving them gently or sitting in vibrating bouncy chairs.

Are they passing wind more than usual? Violet had terribly painful trapped wind. We helped her by laying her on her back and moving her legs in a ‘bicycle legs’ circular movement.

If this is all sounding too familiar, read the post I wrote a post about how to soothe a baby with colic as I shared what worked for us.

Also, to help out I’ve teamed up with Infacol and The White Company to giveaway a gorgeous Kimbo Seersucker Sleeping Bag 0.5 togs for 0-6 months (worth £28). We bought Violet a similar sleeping bag to this from The White Company and it really helped give her some comfort, so I hope it helps your little one too!

Enter below for your chance to win:

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GOOD LUCK!

 

I hope this post has helped if you have a little one with colic, just remember IT WILL PASS and for more information on infantile colic, you can visit www.infacol.co.uk. To get advice on excessive crying, including one-on-one phone support, visit www.cry-sis.org.uk.

 

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41 Comments

  1. Solange
    4 June, 2018 / 11:26 pm

    Try a gentle massage.

  2. Margaret GALLAGHER
    5 June, 2018 / 1:46 am

    Patience – smaller feeds correct teats and bottles – speak to your health visitor

  3. Sue McCarthy
    5 June, 2018 / 7:04 am

    I don’t have any children but would love to win this prize to donate to charity, to go to Romania.

  4. Rosemary Tily
    5 June, 2018 / 8:17 am

    Sometimes it helps to lie the baby on its front across your knees so that it is stretched out, then gently rub its back.

  5. Rosemary Tily
    5 June, 2018 / 9:16 am

    Sometimes it helps to lie the baby across your knees, on its front and the gently stoke its back. Being stretched out seems to help to disperse any trapped wind.

  6. Sally Collingwood
    5 June, 2018 / 10:13 am

    Gripe water works wonders

  7. Peter Watson
    5 June, 2018 / 10:31 am

    It used to be gripe water but my dad used to drink most of it,lovely taste but the alcohol isn’t really needed.

  8. Tracy Nixon
    5 June, 2018 / 11:30 am

    Infacol also works!

    • Tracy Nixon
      5 June, 2018 / 11:33 am

      Sorry I meant gripe water! Also make sure you always wind your baby aftrer feeding!

  9. Fay
    5 June, 2018 / 11:42 am

    I don’t have a top tip (I don’t have any children). Am entering for my new little nephew

  10. Ursula
    5 June, 2018 / 12:25 pm

    Winding properly and Infacol

  11. Sadiyya Maryam
    5 June, 2018 / 1:13 pm

    Staying calm helps really! And gripe water.

  12. Ren Taylor
    5 June, 2018 / 2:53 pm

    Infacol is the only thing i have ever found that works…..

  13. Kim Styles
    5 June, 2018 / 5:32 pm

    give the baby a warm bath that can help sooth the tummy

  14. Tasha
    5 June, 2018 / 7:37 pm

    Infacol is brilliant stuff

  15. Rachel Lewis
    5 June, 2018 / 8:13 pm

    Dr Brown bottles.

  16. john prendergast
    5 June, 2018 / 10:49 pm

    gripe water

  17. Ruth Harwood
    6 June, 2018 / 10:20 am

    Hugs and tummy rubbing x

  18. Rachel Craig
    6 June, 2018 / 4:58 pm

    If / when bottle feeding make use of anti- colic / or slow flow teats. A warm bath can be soothing for baby. Worthwhile speaking to midwife/ Health Visitor/ GP, as is it colic :- What advice, suggestions. May be reflux, so could definitely be worthwhile to discuss with GP, as desire to ease discomfort for baby, ensure optimal health and wellbeing.

  19. Laura Pritchard
    6 June, 2018 / 8:27 pm

    Back rubs on my chest.

  20. Katie
    6 June, 2018 / 10:10 pm

    I don’t have a tip as I don’t have any children myself (not through choice, sadly) – I’m entering for my nephew xx

  21. Debbie smith
    7 June, 2018 / 8:43 pm

    i was fortunate enough that both my sons didnt have this but i have heard great things about infacol xx lovely giveaway x

  22. Karen Barrett
    9 June, 2018 / 2:12 pm

    Dr Brown bottles

  23. Kristyn Harris
    10 June, 2018 / 10:08 pm

    Lots of winding and patience!

  24. Susan B
    13 June, 2018 / 4:00 pm

    Try gentle baby massage and take advice from health visitors and midwives on any effective products new to the market.

  25. Hali Kinson
    13 June, 2018 / 4:15 pm

    Sit upright for 30 mins after bottle

  26. 13 June, 2018 / 10:24 pm

    Lots of back rubbing and patience

  27. Kirsty Hosty
    16 June, 2018 / 8:56 am

    I found gripe water, lots of back rubbing very helpful

  28. janine atkin
    16 June, 2018 / 11:05 am

    gripe water is amazing stuff

  29. Charlotte G
    16 June, 2018 / 11:50 am

    Infacol and winding them properly

  30. Carly Belsey
    16 June, 2018 / 1:48 pm

    Breastfeed if possible but if not then get some infacol – it’s amazing stuff

  31. donna l jones
    16 June, 2018 / 8:30 pm

    l used gruipe water

  32. carol boffey
    17 June, 2018 / 8:31 am

    Lots of tummy rubs

  33. A.E. ADKINS
    17 June, 2018 / 11:18 am

    Good winding technique & gentle but firm tummy rubs reduces & alleviates but unfortunately doesn’t eliminate episodes

  34. paula cheadle
    17 June, 2018 / 11:35 am

    go into the bathroom and fill the room with steam, the steam helps quite a bit

  35. Adrian Bold
    17 June, 2018 / 11:55 am

    I recommend Infacol.

  36. Kim Neville
    17 June, 2018 / 2:45 pm

    I used infacol with my son and it helped him

  37. Natalie Crossan
    17 June, 2018 / 8:27 pm

    Proper winding and tummy rubs helped with mine xxx

  38. Hannah Scudder
    17 June, 2018 / 8:35 pm

    Winding often and trying different bottles.

  39. Tammy Neal
    17 June, 2018 / 8:42 pm

    Gripe water

  40. Tee Simpson
    17 June, 2018 / 9:12 pm

    Try baby massage to help with the symptoms and relaxation.

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